Kayastha is a caste, community of the Hindus originating in India. Kayastha are a part of high class community existing in India. That is why they are well educated, mannered and hold the post of the accountant, writers and administrative officers of the region.
According to the Hindu scriptures known as the Puranas, Kayasthas are descended from Chitragupta, "who was born from the body of Brahma", and is the deity responsible for recording the deeds of humanity, upholding the rule of law, and judging whether human beings go to heaven or hell upon death.
Many important wedding rituals are followed by this community of Hindus. These rituals are performed before, after and at the day of the marriage.
In this ceremony, a non-veg feast is organised at both the quarters separately for the close relatives within a day or two after the wedding. Typically, the main dish is mutton-vade or mutton biryani and liquor may be served before the food. In olden days, even women used to sip liquor from small silver bowls, which was called nathi vagdya karane i.e. to take aside nose rings to facilitate the sips.
This is the ceremony in which the date of marriage is fixed in an auspicious hour as advised by pundits and after consulting horoscope of the bride and groom. Once the marriage date is fixed the groom's family, sends a list of their relatives to the bride's house comprising names of family Gods and Goddesses, names of the respected elders and other relatives including their relation to the groom. This list is known as farisht, which is prepared in style and written in poetry verses.
The marriage preparations begin with the Bhaat Niyuatena in which the family relatives and close friends are invited to attend the marriage and to bless the wedding couple.
On the day before marriage there is a tradition of putting mehandi on the bride and groom. On the day of marriage, the bride after taking bath in the morning, wears a pink saree and visits the temple with her friends and sisters to worship Goddess Parvati.
This is one of the main wedding rituals followed in the marriages. It is performed at the day of the wedding on the home of the bride. In this ceremony, the groom and the bride exchange garlands. At the auspicious time, the groom is made to stand on a higher pedestal and the bride's maternal uncle assists in taking three rounds around the boy and garlanding him. It symbolizes that the groom and bride have now accepted each other mentally as well as physically.
In this tradition the bride and groom takes seven circular rounds of the fire along with the chanting of Vedic mantras and after the completion of the seven rounds the groom applies the sindoor on the head part of the bride.
There are many rituals that are performed after the marriage of the couple. These rituals are equally important to that of the other rituals that are described above.
In this ritual, the groom opens the knot of a sacred cloth for which his in-laws present him with some cash and gift.
This ritual is very important part of a marriage. In this, the bride bids a tearful adieu to her family as she proceeds to her new home.
When the groom reaches his home with the bride, the sisters and aunties of the groom welcome them and block the entrance point seeking cash to allow them in. After receiving a satisfying amount they allow the newlyweds couple to enter their home.
In this ritual, the bride is introduced to the every family members of the groom and she takes blessing from the elder members by touching their feet. This was the first interaction of the bride with the family members of the groom.